There was a time in my life when everything felt dark. Not just hard — heavy. The kind of heavy that sits on your chest when you wake up and follows you through the day.
I was overwhelmed, exhausted, and so used to disappointment. When things keep going wrong for long enough, you stop expecting anything different. You stop hoping, because hoping feels like setting yourself up to be hurt again.
I was surviving, not living.
When you’re in that place, it’s hard to ask for help. It’s hard to believe help will even make a difference. And it’s even harder to imagine that things could actually get better.
That’s when Family Based Solutions stepped in.
They didn’t rush me. They didn’t judge me. They didn’t make me feel like a problem that needed fixing. They listened. They supported. They stayed consistent when everything else in my life felt unstable. They treated me like a person — not a case, not a number, not a burden.
And that mattered more than I can explain.
Family Based Solutions don’t just support families — they walk alongside them. They meet people where they are, even when that place is messy, painful, or overwhelming. They understand that families don’t fall apart overnight, and they don’t heal overnight either. Real support takes time, patience, and genuine care — and that’s exactly what they give.
Looking back now, reflection has helped me see just how important that support was. At the time, I was just trying to get through the day. I didn’t realise how much of an impact it was having. But now, seeing my hopes slowly happening in front of me, I understand: I wouldn’t be here without that help.
“Sometimes help doesn’t fix everything”
@butterflieswithrainbows
And here’s something people don’t talk about enough — when life has been dark for a long time, accepting good things is hard. Even now, when things are better, I sometimes feel overwhelmed by it. Not because it’s bad — but because I’m not used to things going right. I catch myself waiting for the setback, waiting for the moment it all falls apart.
That’s what survival mode does to you.
But I’m learning that those feelings are okay. Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful. It means your nervous system is learning safety. It means your heart is adjusting to hope. It means you’re healing.
And part of that healing is remembering who helped you along the way.
“I would say SHUT UP AND ENJOY IT. IF LIFE TAKES A DIP, GET BACK UP AND CARRY ON.
Ayse Adil @familybasedsolutions
I will never forget that Family Based Solutions were there for me when I was at my lowest. They supported me when I didn’t have the strength to support myself. They believed in me when I struggled to believe in anything at all.
That’s why I’m asking for help now.
Because Family Based Solutions are always there for the community — and right now, they need the community to be there for them.
They continue to show up for families who are overwhelmed, struggling, scared, and unsure how to move forward. Families who feel like everything is going wrong. Families who are exactly where I once was.
But they can’t do this alone.
If you’re able to help — whether it’s a donation, sharing this message, or simply taking a moment to learn about what they do — it truly matters. Support keeps their work going. Support keeps doors open. Support gives families a chance to breathe when life feels unbearable.
Please consider supporting them here:
👉 https://www.givey.com/familybasedsolutionsneedsyou
I know first-hand how powerful their work is. I know how much it can change someone’s life — because it changed mine.
Sometimes help doesn’t fix everything.
Sometimes it doesn’t magically make life perfect.
But sometimes, help is the reason someone keeps going.
“One step back is okay.”
Ayse Adil @familybasedsolutions
And that is more than enough.
Thank you for reading.
Thank you for caring.
And thank you for helping keep Family Based Solutions doing the work they do best — being there when it matters most.
Butterflies With Rainbows 